http://jandysmeanderings.disqus.com/enTue, 26 Sep 2006 23:20:23 -0000http://www.the-frame.com/2006/09/eeeeee/#comment-1749062<p>Jandy,</p><p>More validation for you--Great Job! We all knew you were smart; now a really, really, smart man who teaches at a reputable university has validated us. Now, we who know you can feel validated, too.</p>jenniferTue, 26 Sep 2006 23:20:23 -0000http://www.the-frame.com/2006/09/eeeeee/#comment-1749061<p>Mark - hee.</p><p>Dad - Apparently, I'm not either. I just want to be. It's attractive to me not to need anyone's approval, but I'm not quite there. It's in my personality. Look it up. ;)</p>JandySun, 24 Sep 2006 21:53:04 -0000http://www.the-frame.com/2006/09/eeeeee/#comment-1749060<p>I'll just admit right off that I am not independent not to need validation. Maybe somebody is, but reinforcement from others is usually what keeps me going. And negative reinforcement can be devastating....</p>DadSun, 24 Sep 2006 21:43:54 -0000http://www.the-frame.com/2006/09/eeeeee/#comment-1749059<p>"I tend to think of myself as independent enough not to need validation"</p><p>Right. Me neither. But other people don't cooperate. I'm constantly begging Jennifer to reaffirm my non-need for validation, but she rarely complies. It's hard to maintain independence without reinforcement from others. I don't know why they don't see how important it is to me.</p>MarkThu, 21 Sep 2006 19:08:18 -0000